T.T., 23, They/Them/Theirs

How did you come out to your parents? How was the coming out process?

I was outed. My mother went into my backpack and discovered my not-so-secret journal where I detailed my sexual curiosity. My parents then verbally abused me and kicked me out of their home. This was in December 2009, days before Christmas. I was 14 years old.

If you could go back in time what would you tell your younger self?

Keep going. Don’t give up. Work your ass off.

How do the media’s images of queerness relate to your own life? Do you see yourself in the media’s visions of queerness?

They don’t relate. I think they often miss the mark. They neither cater to my unique experience nor lambast it. It’s as if we don’t exist at all.