A.J., 27, He/Him/His

How did you come out to your parents? How was the coming out process?

In 2012, I came out to my father as Bisexual (since I was dating women and men at the time.) He was pissed, and kept telling me that it was just a phase. He even scanned and highlighted pages of the Bible and laid them out on my bed for me to read.

Fast forward to 2016. My family was going through a few things. I was texting my mom to let her know that things could be better if we became closer as a family and did more things together. While we were sharing feelings, I felt like it was the perfect time to come out to her. So I did. Over text message. Her reaction was very interesting to say the least. She was very passive aggressive and then proceeded to tell me that she already knew.

How did things change after you came out?

Things changed for the better. I felt like a weight was lifted and I now feel more comfortable in my own skin.

As far as my family, I feel like we all started to get a little c

If you could go back in time, what would you tell your younger self?

Care less about what people think about you. The people you are trying to impress aren’t going to mean shit to you in a few years. You are so fucking talented and you are worth more than the opinions of insignificant humans.

Are you worried about your queerness hindering you in getting it a job?

Yes! All the time. I was worried that I was going to have to hide a part of myself. I’m lucky to have found a place like Motive that is so loving and caring. I know a lot of people who cannot be themselves in their workplace or who have been fired from a company for their lifestyle.